Your Unfulfilled Dreams Are
Not Holding You Back
When I was younger, I wanted to become an entertainer. I saw myself dressed up extravagantly on stage, looking out at the crowd, clapping and screaming in appreciation of my performance. That dream stayed with me for a long time. Over the years, as my skills improved, missed opportunities piled up. Every time that happens, I tell myself — better luck next time.
That’s the beauty of youth. There is always the potential of the next big break. We can be whoever we want, assuming we don’t give up easily. We persevere. But there comes a time when we cross the line, and it becomes apparent that what we dream about is not happening. Is it practical to continue living with a hole in our soul?
I always believed that I owe it to myself to pursue my dreams at all costs. I refuse to arrive at my deathbed, regretting the what-ifs and the should-haves of life. Despite clinging to that image of living my dream for over half of my life, I’ve finally crossed the threshold, realizing I’m never going to get it.
Odds are, I’ll never achieve my dream of becoming a celebrity entertainer. I probably won’t get to live the lifestyle of the rich and famous. But given what life offers and the effort I put in to make it work, I ended up exactly where I needed to be.
Life always steers you in the direction you choose. The only downside is that it will not always turn out exactly the way you want.
I checked in with myself to see how I felt about missing the boat. To my surprise, I discovered I had my opportunity. I made it to the stage for a few years and experienced what it feels like to be acknowledged and appreciated for my gift. Although the outcome was far less than what I had imagined, I was there. I’m not living in despair of a broken dream.
On a smaller scale, I had it all momentarily. The fame, the lifestyle, the stress, and the thrill. Did my dream come true? Yes. Did I miss the boat? No. Do I want the next level? I guess not.
Are you in love with the results but not the process?
When we desire something, it isn’t the object or the event that we are after. What we are seeking is the feeling that comes with the attainment. It’s about getting into the good feeling space — satisfaction and fulfillment.
There could be areas in your life where you had the opportunity of living your dreams. Think about what it is you desire. Do you want to travel the world, own property, drive a luxury car, or fall in love with the person of your dreams?
In some strange ways, life will orchestrate that event for you to experience. Life always steers you in the direction you choose. The only downside is that it will not always turn out exactly the way you want. Because of that, you might think you have missed the boat.
Life will present you with hurdles that will force you to pause and reconsider if you desire that dream as much as you claimed you do.