Quit Trying To Get Your Life Back Into Balance
Everyone is striving towards maintaining a well-balanced life. But what if there is no such thing as a balanced life?
What does balance mean? The dictionary defines balance as an even distribution of weight, enabling someone or something to remain upright without falling over. It is about maintaining your center. A balanced life means the ability to enjoy success equally in career, relationships, health, and every other area of your life. In short, it means having it all.
Is it realistic to expect a balanced life?
Everything in my life requires a part of me — career, family, friends, hobby, and health. Don’t forget, while all those aspects are a part of self, having time for self does not mean working, spending time with friends and family, or working out.
For me, time for self means savoring a cup of coffee in the morning, taking a walk in the park, an afternoon nap, or meditation. It is engaging in activities that will boost my well-being without the involvement of other people.
Life is all about choices, and they are relentless. Every decision to prioritize one aspect means you are compromising on other areas. If you are truly serious about success, you cannot expect to spend an equal amount of time socializing with friends. If your family is important to you, you can’t expect to make it big in your career at the same time with equal contribution and still have quality time set aside. That will never happen.
Whichever areas you choose to prioritize, you are sacrificing others. Where you invest most of your time will provide you with the best returns.
In the beginning, you may need to put in more than you can bargain. When your career takes off, it is hardly time to slow down. When you have tasted the sweet nectar of success, you won’t want to stop.
If you have a fitness goal but refuse to cut down your social time with friends, it’s unlikely you will ever come close, let alone achieve your goals. Do you invest quality time in your relationships, or are you satisfied they exist in the background?
Whichever areas you choose to prioritize, you are sacrificing others. Where you invest most of your time will provide you with the best returns. The question to ask is which areas are you willing to sacrifice to get what you want.
We hit multiple crossroads along our journey. Life forces us to choose either way. If we refuse to decide, we will end up with regrets about choices we didn’t make.
No one likes to compromise. You give in to a decision but secretly feel angry and resentful of those you have to give up. Regardless of what you want to pursue in life, you will soon discover it’s not possible to have everything. By unrealistically holding on to hope, you fool yourself into believing you can achieve a balanced life.
If I’m living a balanced life, I will end up being mediocre, just good enough to get by, but not very far. Nothing spectacular happens in the middle.