Stop Getting Angry And Take Back Control
I get angry and frustrated. I’m not proud of myself, yet it happens. I accept that this is a completely natural reaction to unpleasant circumstances but I try to disassociate myself from this term as much as possible.
People’s behavior impacts how I feel and how my day goes. I know it shouldn’t be that way, but unless I pack and move to a remote island, I will have to deal with other human beings.
As I look back on all the times when something ticked me off, I realize that most people are not out to get me. Most of them probably already have problems on their own, and the way they behave is just a form of release. They needed an outlet.
It was just unfortunate that when it happened, I was in their way for whatever reason. One time, a guy got mad at the barista because she got his order wrong. He yelled at her, turned around, and bumped into me spilling coffee all over myself. A classic example, right? Before I had time to react, he was out of the door.
Everyone is responsible for themselves. I need to hold myself accountable for how I behave and how I respond because it reflects who I am. It does not help for me to say that I behave poorly because someone made me.
— Esther George, Purposefullifenow.com
Another time, I was exiting the commuter rail station heading down a crowded stairway. The guy behind me got impatient. He mumbled something, pushed past me, and made his way through the crowd. My heel slipped and I almost fell down the stairs.
What should I do? Smile and yell ‘good morning?’
There were times I allowed events like these to ruin my entire day. My mind will replay the unpleasant incident with what I could have said or done differently. After a while, it hit me. This is a one-off incident. Why am I obsessed over this person and what they did when it’s unlikely I’ll ever see them again?
My mental health is important and going crazy over things that are out of my control does not help. I know the saying that people’s behavior reflects who they are and that it has nothing to do with me. It’s obvious by the two examples above. Why do they act that way? Obviously, they are having a bad day and if I give in to the bad vibes, what does that make me?
I try, I said try — not to take things personally these days. After all, people will get in my way and I have to remind myself that it’s not about me. Some people are just jerks and odds are, we’re surrounded by them. The question is, what will we do about it?
How we think shows through in how we act. Attitudes are mirrors of the mind. They reflect thinking.
— David Joseph Schwartz