Having The Courage To Live Your Own Truth
I am stuck with indecision. I want to move forward, but a part of me has an equally strong compulsion to stay where I am. I’m in the middle spot, being pulled in both directions with the same intensity and therefore not getting anywhere. I can’t trust my judgments, and so I consult the opinions of many others. I’m hoping they can give me some assurance so I can move on.
I’m afraid of making mistakes. A range of doubts, hesitations, and guilt hinders me. Perhaps other people might be able to guide me and shove me down the path I’m supposed to go. But wait! Who is walking down this path, and whose choice is this?
Why would I think that someone else would know my path better than I do? Why would I assume others would be more qualified to dictate where I’m going instead of determining it for myself? Could it be possible that others are more familiar with my life than me?
Why do we assume we need permission to do what we already know we want to do? Beneath our practical dilemma, we know what we want. Even if we are unsure of the exact destination, we are more or less convinced of the direction we are heading.
Why would I think that someone else would know my path better than I do? Why would I assume others would be more qualified to dictate where I’m going instead of determining it for myself?
How many times have you asked for a suggestion and noticed that it just does not feel right? Something within you seeks agreement. As much as you would like to think that you’re open-minded, contrary opinions will bring resistance. On the flip side, if the suggestion feels right, you will gladly receive it as an acceptable choice. The truth is, you have already made your decision.
Whose life are you living?
Often, what we believe to be indecision is really insecurity. We want validation.
We’re looking for someone to agree with us as a sign of assurance that we’re not making a mistake. When people tell us what we want to hear, we feel encouraged.
We don’t trust ourselves to live our truth, so we seek validation, asking for permission to do what we already know we want.
Not feeling good enough makes us prone to people-pleasing. We affirm the values of others as higher than our own. Perhaps it makes us feel safe, and it gives us a sense of belonging.
We want our partners, colleagues, families, and friends to affirm our choices. We want them to feel good that we include them in our decision-making. But if their suggestions do not agree with what we want, we feel bad and start doubting our choices.
When circumstances are not ideal, and no one seems to believe in you, it is the fire inside you that will power you forward. No one else can truly understand that better than you.