Break The Cycle And Rise Above Your Emotions Because You're Better Than That
I know you tried not to react. You held yourself back from taking offense. Is it possible to keep your calm?
What’s your first instinct when people hurt you?
You’ve attempted to be supportive, to offer to understand, to show them loving kindness. Yet it doesn’t seem to help. They continue to blame you for their pain, lashing out at you about their frustrations.
They are the least concerned that you are standing there, wildly amazed and shock. There’s nothing you can do except to regain your composure and face their fury and spite.
It’s undeniably hard. You felt the heat rising within you. You sensed an increased and rapid heartbeat. Your muscles are tensed, there’s a churning feeling in your stomach.
You’re getting offended. You’re about to unleash your anger. While you would not intentionally hurt anyone, the hurt you felt makes you bitter, frustrated, and doubtful of people’s motives. Deny your ego the right to take over.
Don’t do it. It will lead you to more pain and regrets later. Anger will close your senses off to the true situation and cause you to turn on defensive mode.
When others cast their projections, it’s common for it to appear as if they are a direct attack on you, but it’s not. Pain can cause you to override what may be happening in reality. It takes strength and courage to pause and remind yourself that other people’s actions are not about you. They seldom do. It’s almost always about them.
Let today be the day you control your emotions. Don’t let them get the best of you. Whatever you are feeling right now should not be overwhelming. Don’t allow others to dampen your spirit. You are entitled to enjoy peace.
— Amaka Imani Nkosazana