Don't Persist In Resisting
For the longest time, I was taught that resistance holds the key to victory. I’ve been told that as long as I’m able to persist in resisting whatever that is standing in my way, success shouldn’t be very far off. So often I find myself pushing when I should be pulling, running when I should be standing my ground; while I continue to wonder why didn’t my problems go away, especially when I am trying to hard?
Many of us are so used to pushing against our own best interests. We don’t know what it means to not effort and struggle. It becomes our go-to strategy even when it continually proves to be less than effective. We try to control things because we want to get over the fear of confronting the unknown.
We subconsciously sabotage ourselves by focusing on the things we don’t want in our life experiences. This results in emotional suffering and unhappiness in the present moment. It will also likely lead to similar undesired experiences in the future. Through the energy you give off, you may even be holding on to that undesirable experience in your life.
The Law of Attraction works in the same way as Newton’s law of gravity and motion combined. For example, when a bullet moving at a high speed hits an impenetrable plate, it can bounce off and hit something else with the same force. If you throw an object into the air with a strong force, it builds that same momentum as it comes back down.
Likewise, the Law of Attraction says that when you focus intense emotion and energy on something, you open yourself up to receive more experiences that will match that same frequency. Our emotions fluctuate on a scale of light to heavy. The higher we set our expectations or importance on a person or thing, the greater the force of gravity will pull on our emotions. It is the same laws and fundamental forces that govern our Universe, just like when we toss an object into the air and watch it get pulled to the ground.
Your emotional compass serves as a guide to let you know where your point of attraction is, at any given moment. When you feel bad, you are emitting a frequency that can only come back to you in the same way that it left; leaving you with more to feel bad about. When you feel good, the same thing happens. That good feeling energy will be returned to you, just as you sent it out into the world.
If you are resisting something, you are feeding it. Any energy you fight, you are feeding. If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay.
– Michael Singer
Long ago, the depth psychologist Carl Jung contended that “what you resist not only persists but will grow in size.”
When a force of energy does not align with your expectations, it would be normal to want to avoid it. Resistance is the tendency. You would grasp onto the emotion and tamp it down, instead of allowing it to work its way through to be released and expressed. This unprocessed emotional energy will be stuck and stored within our mind, body and spirit. When you are not willing to embrace a situation, the force of gravity increases causing you to feel weighed down. You become disproportionately upset because the thing you desperately wanted did not come to fruition.
Energy from issues that haven’t been emotionally resolved doesn’t simply evaporate just because you’ve paid them no heed. Locked up within, they continue to circulate, unawares, in your system, periodically knocking on a door which you refuse to open. By devoting all your energy towards what you believe must be avoided, you further “energize” it. By doing so, you permit it to have even more power over you. Through your misconception, you are strengthening what you’d hope to weaken.
LET IT GO
One route that many of us take to avoid suffering is by blaming others for our misery. Blaming is a form of resistance. By allowing your resentments and animosities to linger indefinitely only perpetuates your gloom. As long as you hold onto your hostility or hatred, you’ll never be able to rid yourself of the bad feelings still residing within you.
Only if you resist what happens are you at the mercy of what happens, and the world will determine your happiness and unhappiness.
– Eckhart Tolle