Don't Persist In Resisting
For the longest time, I was taught that resistance holds the key to victory. I’ve been told that as long as I’m able to persist in resisting whatever that is standing in my way, success shouldn’t be very far off. So often I find myself pushing when I should be pulling, running when I should be standing my ground; while I continue to wonder why didn’t my problems go away, especially when I am trying to hard?
Many of us are so used to pushing against our own best interests. We don’t know what it means to not effort and struggle. It becomes our go-to strategy even when it continually proves to be less than effective. We try to control things because we want to get over the fear of confronting the unknown.
We subconsciously sabotage ourselves by focusing on the things we don’t want in our life experiences. This results in emotional suffering and unhappiness in the present moment. It will also likely lead to similar undesired experiences in the future. Through the energy you give off, you may even be holding on to that undesirable experience in your life.
MATCHING FREQUENCY
The Law of Attraction works in the same way as Newton’s law of gravity and motion combined. For example, when a bullet moving at a high speed hits an impenetrable plate, it can bounce off and hit something else with the same force. If you throw an object into the air with a strong force, it builds that same momentum as it comes back down.
Likewise, the Law of Attraction says that when you focus intense emotion and energy on something, you open yourself up to receive more experiences that will match that same frequency. Our emotions fluctuate on a scale of light to heavy. The higher we set our expectations or importance on a person or thing, the greater the force of gravity will pull on our emotions. It is the same laws and fundamental forces that govern our Universe, just like when we toss an object into the air and watch it get pulled to the ground.
Your emotional compass serves as a guide to let you know where your point of attraction is, at any given moment. When you feel bad, you are emitting a frequency that can only come back to you in the same way that it left; leaving you with more to feel bad about. When you feel good, the same thing happens. That good feeling energy will be returned to you, just as you sent it out into the world.
If you are resisting something, you are feeding it. Any energy you fight, you are feeding. If you are pushing something away, you are inviting it to stay.
– Michael Singer
STUCK ENERGY
Long ago, the depth psychologist Carl Jung contended that “what you resist not only persists but will grow in size.”
When a force of energy does not align with your expectations, it would be normal to want to avoid it. Resistance is the tendency. You would grasp onto the emotion and tamp it down, instead of allowing it to work its way through to be released and expressed. This unprocessed emotional energy will be stuck and stored within our mind, body and spirit. When you are not willing to embrace a situation, the force of gravity increases causing you to feel weighed down. You become disproportionately upset because the thing you desperately wanted did not come to fruition.
Energy from issues that haven’t been emotionally resolved doesn’t simply evaporate just because you’ve paid them no heed. Locked up within, they continue to circulate, unawares, in your system, periodically knocking on a door which you refuse to open. By devoting all your energy towards what you believe must be avoided, you further “energize” it. By doing so, you permit it to have even more power over you. Through your misconception, you are strengthening what you’d hope to weaken.
LET IT GO
One route that many of us take to avoid suffering is by blaming others for our misery. Blaming is a form of resistance. By allowing your resentments and animosities to linger indefinitely only perpetuates your gloom. As long as you hold onto your hostility or hatred, you’ll never be able to rid yourself of the bad feelings still residing within you.
Only if you resist what happens are you at the mercy of what happens, and the world will determine your happiness and unhappiness.
– Eckhart Tolle
When you hang on to resentment, you resist a better tomorrow. It drains off every bit of your mental energy as you consume yourself by resisting life and getting stuck in a perpetual cycle. There’s so much in life that we have no control over. People may not always behave in the kind and considerate ways we’d like for them to be. But what is the point of wasting all our energy on things we cannot control and blatantly neglect those that we can control?
Understand that thoughts and emotions are there for good reasons. It reminds us that some things do need our attention, not by pushing back on them or getting pulled down into their content. They need to be accepted and allowed. Create within yourself the space for acceptance, learning and growth. When you consciously choose to let go of the way you think it “should be”, you free your mind to deal with life’s unexpected changes.
IT IS WHAT IT IS
All suffering is caused by non-acceptance of what is. You suffer when you want things to be different from how they are. Most of the time, it is not the experience itself that causes us pain and suffering, rather the resistance to the experience. How you label the experience determines how you feel. To your dismay, you will soon find out that the amount of energy you have invested in blocking that experience is in vain. The stuck energy within you will eventually make itself known, in the form of physical symptoms you cannot avoid.
Resistance, which is non-acceptance, is like quicksand. The more you struggle, often the deeper you sink. The way to survive is to lie back and allow yourself to float freely instead of forcing against the tide. Acceptance is simply acknowledging that things are as they are. It is what it is.
Refusing to accept something doesn't create change, and often makes the situation worse. It isn't until you accept things just as they are, that you can open up your mind to possible alternatives.
KEEP IT LIGHT
If it is true that what you resist persists, the opposite is equally true, that is what you embrace dissolves. Negative states persist because we give them energy and importance by giving them our attention. When we offer no resistance, they wither and fade away. The more we keep an open heart, the less likely it will break under the pressure of gravity.
Remind yourself that no matter how much you try to fight it, your unpleasant reality will not change. It can be helpful to acknowledge that there is a cause and that this has happened for a reason. When you expect less, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities outside the confines of your rigid expectations. You will then discover that a life that’s light and peaceful is truly possible.
