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Is There Even Such A Thing As Too Much I Love You's?
Can there be too much I love you’s? I wholeheartedly accept that there is certainly no shortage of all the ways anyone can show love. Life is much too short to hold back telling others you love them.
I tell people I love them all the time because I want them to know that’s how I feel about them. Those words, no matter how often I say them, never lose their value to me. I love you is a statement of power. I say it because I mean it from within the depths of my heart.
I find it strange that some believe if you say too much I love you’s, it loses its meaning. It’s as if repeating it too often causes its profound significance to reduce. I would argue that you can never say it enough.
When I tell you I love you, my focus is not on how you receive it but on how sincere I am when I say it.
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Of course, not everyone is comfortable saying it. Some people are just better off showing their affections through their actions.
My parents have never told me they love me. Nope, not even once. That’s fine because, after a while, I stop hoping and expecting. Don’t cry for me Argentina! It’s just that after a while, I know who are those who will profess their love openly, and those who will walk past me, mechanically expecting me to “understand” that they do.
I’m the type who will say it all the time and still feel like it’s special. Some people make me feel comfortable expressing myself openly all the time. There are also those who, no matter how close, words just don’t come out right. Perhaps they are the type that prefers to express or receive it through actions.
If you’re the type who rarely says it, then make sure you show them through your actions. Don’t deprive those you love.
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How would I know if it’s true? I believe there’s no reason for us to even get in on that boat. When I tell you I love you, my focus is not on how you receive it but on how sincere I am when I say it. How do you feel about it? Well, that’s really not my problem. Since when do I have power over how someone feels about me or what I do? My power is solely on what I can control about myself.
It is definitely possible for some to say it dryly out of habit, in an almost robotic and perfunctory manner. It’s not difficult to tell if they truly mean it or not. Those who mean it will often attempt to show me they are sincere, even if they seemed to have over-said it. They make me feel loved. Those who don’t, well — believe me, we can always tell without a shadow of a doubt. Actions certainly speak louder than words ever will.
That completely depends if I still want to tell them I love them. Do I say it because I mean it or do I say it based on their response? There is no right answer since this boils down to a matter of individual preferences.
Sure, I can say I love you very often, and what’s wrong with that if I truly mean it. But if it’s saying purely just out of habit, I really don’t see what is the point in that.
If you’re the type who rarely says it, then make sure you show them through your actions. Don’t deprive those you love. When you say it, make it special and meaningful.
I take the time to understand the love language of those close to me, the ways in which they feel most loved, and I express it generously. It won’t cost a dime.
Now, back to the question, is it possible to say too much I love you’s? Saying out of habit does not count, so yeah, my answer is NO! I get it that actions speak louder than words, but if you tell me you love me, hell yeah, that would definitely make my day.
I love you right back!
