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Understand That It's Totally Okay To Not Be Okay Right Now
I want to remind you to hold on, even when you’re exhausted from pushing back the darkness, trying to survive moments of despair. You feel like you’ve failed. You’ve let yourself and those you love down. It may take a while to figure out, but life always has a purpose. Don’t allow the distraction to affect you.
I want to remind you that you’re deeply loved and cared for, despite the pain you are in. The scene will forever etch in the backdrop of your memory, haunting you, reminding you of what you’ve been through. But that’s how you’ll learn not to make excuses, not to take things for granted. You’ll learn that there are people in your life who have come to teach you how to let go. And if you look hard enough, you will notice those who would go the extra mile to show they will love you through all your imperfections.
I want to remind you that hope exists. Even though it feels like the end, it’s really the beginning. Life hardly teaches important lessons in a tender or gentle manner. It forces you to stand up to your fears, forging you by experience to help you better cope and ultimately overcome. What seems like an endless road in the beginning will always get easier when you allow yourself to traverse across the rough edges of life. While you’re trying to find your way out of the darkness of confusion and doubt, remember that light will always conquer darkness in due time.
I want to remind you that miracles do happen. I want to remind you that there's truth buried deep in your soul.
I want to remind you that miracles do happen despite your dreams turning into nightmares. You’ve fallen victim to the lie that vulnerability is weakness and that has left you broken and in need. Despite being at your lowest point, having the strength to show up and to be seen every day is true strength, even if it seems crazy. It allows you to figure out the pieces you never understood before.
I want to remind you that there’s truth buried deep inside your soul, but it will take an endless amount of time by yourself to discover it. I can’t tell you how long. It may be days, weeks, months, or even years before you get to the end of this emotional turmoil. Then suddenly, you’ll come to the realization of how much you’ve truly gained over the period of time rather than mourning for what you’ve lost.
I want to remind you that the pain won’t last. It doesn’t matter if no one understands because every hurt is personal. It’s okay to not be able to get right back up when life viciously knocks you down. Pain demands your attention and acceptance as you pass through the doorway of grief. It’s not always about fixing things, or improving things, or even finding solutions at all. Sometimes it’s about having the courage to recognize when something isn’t working anymore.
I want to remind you that the pain won't last.I want to remind you that you will survive.
I want to remind you that you will survive. I know right now your chest feels like collapsing, your head is pounding and your heart is breaking. You can pull yourself out of this, I promise. You are stronger and more resilient than you know. Allow time to close the incision in your soul. Quit trying to pick up broken glasses and risk getting yourself cut again in the process. Step away. There’s nothing else you can do or need to do.
No matter how rough it seems now, life always has a way to make things turn out okay. You’ll always learn. The heaviness will pass. You don’t have to keep on explaining. You don’t have to ask any more questions, and there’s no need to give any more answers. Allow yourself to be weak. Cry if you must. Scream if you have to. It takes time. You can’t rush healing, but you will get there.
It is through your trials and grief that you’ll truly discover who you are on the inside. Never underestimate your strength. If you’re willing to push through, you’ll discover how strong you really are. That’s your hidden superpower. Trusting enable you to live more efficiently and progress faster.
I want to remind you that it’s okay to not be okay right now.