When The End Arrives, Let There Be No Excuses And No Regrets
The common reaction on hearing someone passing is usually shocking, mixed with sadness, disbelief, or numbness. Sometimes it could be just plain non-acceptance. This sort of news can turn our lives upside down.
There was a time not too long ago when the only news I received was about weddings, the birth of a child, proud first-time home buyers, moving up the corporate ladder. That was because I was in that age group. But as time catches up, I’m getting more and more news about people I know who exit.
There are inevitable things in life, and death is one of them. That means it will happen anytime at some point, whether or not we like it. When the time comes, all of us have to move on. The fear of dying is not irrational, but how can we be more at peace when death knocks on the door, for us or for those we love? It sounds almost absurd to ask.
I ask this question and wonder how I will cope with the issue. I don’t want to get caught in this impossibly dark and winding center. Not that I will, but I just don’t know.
Often we are ill-prepared for the ebb of life. We live as if every day is going to be the same. We get up in the morning, go through our day just like we did yesterday, and expect it’ll be exactly the same tomorrow. But life is unpredictable. Even some days the sun refuses to shine.
How we choose to see our world is exactly how we experience it.
Should we allow the moment surrounding an event to narrate our story, to dictate how we should feel or how our day should turn out? Can we flex our free will amid intense emotions?
Why is it that while someone is facing death, someplace else, another person is celebrating? Life continues to happen regardless of our experience. What changes is our perception of what’s happening. How we choose to see our world is exactly how we experience it.
What does life mean to you? Is it a never-ending pursuit of trying to get something, to gain status, a title, or an image that makes you, you? If that’s the case, you’ll always feel pressured for time and it becomes difficult to accept the inevitability of death.
If your view of life is about being happy, fulfilled, and anything else is the side effect of you getting to your destination, then death should be a similar concept. We’re allocated the time to accomplish all we can at our utmost. When it’s time to relinquish, we should not feel entitled to more because we have completely utilized our privileges.
You can’t change the cast or the setting within the narrative, but you can determine how the movie unfolds moment by moment.