If They Don't Deserve You, Stop Wasting Your Time
People reveal who they are and believe it or not, they’ll let you know if they’re worth your time. Let’s be fair, we’re all busy. We have our little universe to rule. Perhaps you think yours is small, but it’s by no means insignificant. That’s why it’s important we deal appropriately with dawdlers who get into our space and hijack our time.
My universe is vast, not in terms of size but of importance. Call me selfish, but I don’t see that to be a bad thing. Prioritizing self and building a solid foundation for my life is a healthy pursuit. Besides, when I feel good about myself, I’m in a better position to be of service to the world.
Relationships are an enormous deal for me. I care about people. That’s why I’m on high alert when some imposing personality type enters my space and demands my energy without reciprocity. These are the ones who love bickering, who think everyone should change except them, are full of drama, and can’t have a normal conversation without all hell breaking loose.
These are the types who unashamedly feed on others’ willingness to listen and care for them. Every session with them leaves me exhausted and overwhelmed until I’ve decided I don’t need that kind of toxicity in my life. Learning to spot them from afar saves me a great deal of unnecessary emotional stress and helps me regain control of my schedule.
These are leeches who suck on others to feed their emotional demands. They never accept responsibility for any issue or fault, flailing in and out with their emotional and dramatic behavior. These are unhappy campers who wear victimhood like it’s a warm fuzzy coat.
Leeches are not friends, they are parasites
People are exactly how they are. If they decided for a minuscule moment they wanted to change, they will. And it’ll be obvious because positive energy is contagious. It makes us want to jump in on the wagon with them.
Far too often, I’ve stuck around thinking that a certain friend, family or coworker is in a tight spot and the least I could do is show some compassion, lend a helping hand, a listening ear, or offer hospitality without grumbling, so they’ll have a place to wallow, lash out, bicker and unload whatever that’s bothering them. A little kindness goes a long way, right?
But if that’s all they do, all the time, every time, we need to recognize them for who they are. These are leeches who suck on others to feed their emotional demands. They never accept responsibility for any issue or fault, flailing in and out with their emotional and dramatic behavior. These are unhappy campers who wear victimhood like it’s a warm fuzzy coat. This is not the time to be friendly, it’s time to flee.
What separates time vampires from the rest of the crowd is that they feel no shame or remorse for taking advantage of others and their time for granted.