Leave The Broken Pieces Where They Lay And Find Yourself Again
Who never has to deal with regrets?
I’m talking about the lingering type. The kind that makes you beat yourself up every time it surfaces. The kind that has the power to control your mood and makes you feel miserable for days on end. The kind that digs into your deepest woes and reminds you of what you could’ve or should’ve done.
Memories are timeless treasures of the heart, and sometimes it’s near impossible not to hold on to it. When situations didn’t quite turn out the way we expect it, regret and guilt become unavoidable.
The weight of regret drags you down. It becomes harder to carry the longer you hold on to it.
Clinging on to a past mistake is not the same as learning from it. The tormenting thoughts that accompany the memories create self-loathing and cause you to feel downright worthless, undeserving of love and happiness.
It makes you forget that life is happening right now. What you’re ruminating on doesn’t make sense anymore because no amount of worry or regret is going to change the past.
What can you accomplish by burying yourself in the problem?
What’s past is past.
Unless you conclude that chapter of your life, you can never be fully present.
There will always be something to regret. That’s just how life is. No one knows for sure how everything is going to turn out. We just do the best we can with whatever we have at the time.
The thing about regret is that you look back on your life at one point in time when everything stood still. You fall into regret because you thought things would turn out differently if you had listened to your heart.
You wish you had gone against the tides, to choose that long and winding path instead of the straight wide road.
You wish you had faced your fears and pursued that chance of a lifetime.
You wish you had the courage to pack your bags, leave town, become a nomad and live your dreams.
You wish you had spent a little more time with that someone.
The truth is, no one knows. You won’t know for sure if things will turn out the way you’ve imagined in your head, even if you’ve done all those things. If you had stepped into the unknown and did what you wish you had, there’s a whole strange and mysterious world that awaits. You couldn’t possibly have known what would be waiting on the other side.
Regret is when you dwell on that one point in time.
You regret over the past because you thought it was supposed to be better.
You regret over a loss because you thought it should turn out the way you imagined it.
You regret over a missed opportunity because you supposed that was the key to your lifetime bliss.
But it rarely is. The dreams and hopes you had and the decisions you made were because of the person you were. Along the way, things changed. People changed. Situations changed. What seemed interesting and important at that time captures your heart the way it did. If you had an opportunity to relive that moment, chances are you would’ve done the exact same thing.
Accept that you’re an imperfect person, living an imperfect life. Even though it’s difficult, there are always some important lessons to learn. You are better off because of that very experience. You just have to see it.