The Hard Truth About Why You Refuse To Protect Your Time
We seem to imagine that important people are busy and always overworked. So is it right to conclude that busy and overworked people are important?
Unfortunately, not. But that does not stop us from letting it happen all the time. Most are happy being frugal with money, but when it comes to spending our time, we allow others to control how and what we do with it.
We think too little about wasting the time that makes up the sum total of our lives. If life is short, then time is fast. Where you give your time equals a portion of your life that you will never get back.
You should be the toughest miser when it comes to the precious time allocated to you. So why won’t you protect your time?
Saying “No” to people is not the easiest thing to do, yet it’s one of the most powerful skills you need to have to be effective.
Your Priority Is Your Responsibility
Your time is both completely yours and at the same time, it’s not. If you thought that everyone around you should be respectful of your time, or that they’d understand how precious your minutes are, I’m sorry to burst your cute little bubble.
Making yourself a priority is your responsibility. That’s not to say that others are kicked out of your list when you put yourself first. It just means that you see the importance of allowing your life to run smoothly so you can bring your best self to your other needs and challenges.
When you’re on a flexible work schedule, sometimes friends and family automatically assume you’re available all the time. They might call in to ask that you take their dog for a walk, pick up their kid from school, drop by the grocery store, or just sit around waiting for them to drop in unannounced.
At times like these, it’s difficult to say “No” because you don’t want to seem selfish and you don’t want to look like the bad guy. So you reluctantly agree, when you really want to decline.
You spend your time working on what others want out of obligation. You’re not in charge of your day as you would like to. You’re resentful of others and feel that they should not have placed their demands on you.
Saying “No” to people is not the easiest thing to do, yet it’s one of the most powerful skills you need to have to be effective. It will make you feel more empowered and in control of your life.
How can you expect others to respect your time when you don’t?