This post originally appeared here in Journal Of Journeys.
Stop Expecting And Start Taking Full Ownership Of Your Life Now
Are you happy with your life?
Do you think you can have more, be more and do more? Do you believe that somehow if it’s not because of a certain person or some situation, you would have soared in life?
You will not get over it until you wise up and take responsibility for your life.
It’s one of the most boring and tiresome words ever. And do you know what else is? It is this — you are responsible for your life. Your ultimate success depends on the choices you make right now.
That means accepting full responsibility for the quality of your life and for your results. Although technically you didn’t solely create the outcome, you definitely contributed in a significant way to whatever happened. You are the creator of your own destiny.
No one is stopping you from taking it easy and to account for the problems in your life on someone else. You can play the blame game. It is definitely less demanding, less painful, and you don’t have to fix anything.
It’s easier to insist that it was impossible, that there’s nothing you could have done, that it was someone else’s fault. You can have a book full of excuses about why you are where you are.
In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.
How bad should a situation get before you finally wake up and realize that you are your greatest problem, and therefore your greatest solution? The reason you are where you are is that you gave your power away.
By putting the responsibility of your happiness into someone else’s hands, you are setting yourself up for failure. You believe you have no control over your behavior, decision, and your feelings, and that’s just not true.
You absolutely played a part in everything that happens in your life, positive as well as negative. Stop complaining and start figuring out what you can do about it.
Understand that there’s always a valid reason to blame. You have the option to let what happened to define you, or you can accept what happened, pick up the pieces, and move forward.
It’s not your fault that something bad happened, but it’s your responsibility to overcome and deal with it. If you allow your life to fall apart because of what someone has done, you are choosing to accept that.
Reject your sense of injury and the injury itself disappears.
Never forget that you always have a choice. What’s done is done. If you don’t like it, you have the power to change it. If you can’t, then change the way you interpret the situation. When you accept responsibility, you acknowledge that no state or condition is permanent. It is in your power to take charge and get things back on track.
Then start focusing on what you can influence. Stop wasting time mulling over what you can’t change. The way you think, the way you feel, and the way you behave are never out of your control. It is entirely in your power because there’s always a choice.
Stop waiting. No one is coming to save you. You are the only person who can improve your life. Don’t expect change outside of you. Don’t wait for circumstances or people to change in order to make you feel better. If you want change, be the change.
Full ownership is a state of mind. It means taking control and becoming the driver of your life. You are never at the mercy of others. You are not a prisoner to the past.
When it seems like the whole world is against you and your emotions are running high, it’s easy to paint yourself as the victim of great injustice. You are inherently more powerful than you dare to think. When you remove the reliance on other people to improve your life experience, you become an active agent, capable of creating a remarkable life experience for yourself.
You’re not a victim. Take ownership and start focusing your attention on your thoughts, decisions, and actions. Silence the voice of self-pity.
Life is not fair. It’s not unfair either. It just is. Get over it and take charge of your life. If you think you’re a casualty of an attack, that’s because you choose to believe so.
Stop expecting things to happen. Life never owes you anything. It’s up to you to make it count.
You’re are a champion. Now go out there and make something happen.