Time To Get Your Sh*t Together
You remember that day in class when the teacher asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
Your little heart was beating rapidly with excitement as a grin flashed across your face. Full of pride, you raised your hand.
Fast forward decades later, you’re staring out the window blankly into space at your favorite corner coffee shop. Your mind is trying to process what just took place and how life had turned against you.
Let me take a wild guess. Life gives you sh*t. I get it. It happens. You thought to yourself, “Why me?” You believed the world was happening to you and you felt helpless. You’re pissed. You had to be.
Before you do the unthinkable, hear me out. Trouble happens to everyone. That’s the nature of life. It’s mostly unpredictable. You may however need to alter your perspective on life when faced with challenges.
No matter what you’re struggling with, realize that no one is out to get you. You’re not in this situation because some dark force or diabolical villain is working to make your life harder. There isn’t.
It’s hard to swallow, I know. That’s just the truth. You’re not that important. I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but hardly anyone thinks about you at all.
There might have been a handful of pretenders. The priests, the hustlers, and false gods that call on you to worship them. They will give you fake claims of potential affluence, and assure you if you buy into the imperishable system of success from the great ancients, everything would turn out okay.
It takes half your life before you discover life is a do-it-yourself project.
– Napoleon Hill
From the time you were a child, they have conditioned you to believe that you need others to survive. You need to be dependent and to make sure a part of you always falls back on other people, but here’s the hard truth. No matter how much they promise, people will let you down. Everyone has their own issues to deal with.
I know it’s assuring to know that you can depend on someone to pick up your broken pieces and glue them back together. We think we need something outside of ourselves to be complete and to be whole. But that would be like shooting yourself in the foot. You can’t depend on anyone, except for — yourself!
I have found after having survived some setbacks, the one consistent thing that helped me get out of trouble was my decision to grit my teeth, bear the pain, and walk away from each one. It’s easier to imagine that I am destined for the greater glory and will therefore face critical opposition on my way there, but that’s a myopic view of the world. Well-meaning friends and acquaintances may come along with expert advice, but I was the one who had to do it. It requires following through on my decision that helps me overcome my circumstances.
While you may be the most important person in your world, and you should be, you barely exist in the broader scope of the world. That’s why you’re not a target and are not being singled out for cruelty. No one is out to get you therefore, no one is coming to save you either.
It’s not likely that you get discovered at some back alley joint and propelled to stardom. No one is going to swoop down and carry you off to fantasy land. Your sh*tty life will not magically disappear one morning when you get up. You must deal with it. I’m sorry, but you’re on your own.
No one has the answers, but one thing is true. You got to turn on evil when it's coming after you.
– Neil Young