When Life Gets Out Of Balance

You never quite know when that moment is going to come. The one that finally helps you make sense of things. The moment that has been staring you in the face for the longest time. You did not realize because life is happening all around and you are too distracted to pay any attention.

We are always too busy wishing, wanting, hoping, and planning for something else. Sometimes it feels like we’re waiting for something that isn’t ever going to happen. While we wait, life goes on and we never stop to ask ourselves why it must necessarily be so. Some people seem to breeze through life effortlessly and the rest of us have to deal with endless life issues. How many times has life slapped you in the face with something unexpected? And when you tried to look back, you may or may not notice where you might have missed it.


I had on many occasions hoped with good intentions for goals and aspirations to be manifested. These were stuff that is really important to me. While wanting, hoping, and wishing, I wasn’t aware that I was invoking balancing forces. There’s always that sense than when you really, really badly want something that it’s just not going to work out.

The law of balance was popular with ancient philosophers who promoted the idea of moderation, harmony and balance in everything. Being one of the fundamental laws of the universe, it plays a vital role in maintaining balance in our lives, between our thoughts and emotions.

Balance forces emerge as two forces acting in opposite directions to correct any imbalance. We see it out in nature all the time, the way the universe works and the way humans interact. Anytime there is balance, an object stays still or continues to move at the same speed and in the same direction creating equilibrium. Unbalanced forces are forces that cause a change in the motion of an object.

When you lose touch with your inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself. When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world.

– Eckhart Tolle


Reality Transurfing is a quantum approach to viewing reality. The idea is that when you create importance in one area of your life, you are disturbing the stable energy field of nature. This is when an excess potential is formed. Excess potential is defined as a localized disturbance in an otherwise stable energy field. Nature will rise to restore balance in making sure that excess potential is neutralized. When balanced forces come into play, a myriad of problems may be triggered.

People generally expect to have problems. But in reality, the number of problems a person experience is reduced when they lower their expectations or practice detachment.

When I really, really want something, it indicates that I am assigning importance to it. I am unconsciously creating a space of lack. Balancing forces are going to come and balance out that excess potential, by making sure that I don’t get what I really, really, really want.


Everything in nature strives towards a state of balance where balancing forces are directed at eliminating the imbalance. Ironically, the result is often the exact opposite of the original intention. We are used to having good and bad luck in life, success followed by failure, happiness one day and grieving another day. These are all manifestations of the law of balance as extremes on either side upset the balance.

When I look back on my life and those around me, I see it all the time. People get exactly the opposite of what they were hoping for and they have no idea why. When someone strives to prove their importance to the world, the energy is wasted on supporting excess potential.

Balance can be interrupted not only by actions but also by thoughts. Thoughts radiate energy in the material world where everything is energy and everything is connected to everything else. I know you may have the idea that your thoughts are nothing much because they don’t ever leave your head. They are just something that’s happening inside and they are too insignificant to be able to have any effect on the world. But you're wrong. Thought energy gives rise to excess potential when it leans too far over on one side of the scale, weighing it against everything else.

Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.

– Albert Einstein


Everything we encounter in this world is subject to our evaluation. When a subject is assigned too much importance, we fail to evaluate its quality objectively. Thought energy will distort reality. It creates an artificial quality that was never there in the first place, except in our mind, granting either excessively negative or positive characteristics. This gives rise to excess potential.

This is exactly why when you desire something so badly, you never get it. Only when you let go of that desire, it comes into your life. The more you heightened the importance level of an object or person, the more problems you will encounter. For instance, you may become ill or start suffering from depression. This would not be altogether surprising because it aims to pull you away from your original intention. Hence, we get the erroneous opinion that there is some kind of mysterious evil force at work against us.


It is, therefore, necessary for us to consciously review our attitude towards life, our work, relationships, money, hobbies, aspirations, et cetera. The golden rule before you even start considering the solution is to reduce the level of importance you associate with the problem. Shift your attention away because where attention goes, energy flows. And what you feed will grow. Let there be no fear, no worry or obsession. Trust that what you desire will be yours for the highest good. This is what the Master Teacher was advocating when He said, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it and it will be yours. The truest way to overcome importance is to go into the state of having already accomplished the goal. Letting go is true detachment.

Creative energy emits by a happy person shifts them onto to positive lifeline. Ancient philosophers and religious leaders recognized love as the universal force that created the world. Balanced forces are a product of this same creative force. The habit of expressing displeasure at little things is harmful as it can lead to a wave coming back to you.


If you commit yourself to the task of looking for the positive in every negative situation you encounter, you will find that it is not that difficult to do. You can even treat it as a game that you play consistently. Over time, old habits will be replaced with new ones which would only benefit you personally. You do not have undertake the role of an obedient sheep by seeing yourself as a doormat, which is a misconception that will get you entangled in the vicious cycle. Neither should you enter into a confrontation with the world around you.

If a person starts beating themselves up, then a destructive dialogue between the heart and mind is created. The heart is self-sufficient. All shortcomings that a person acquires originate from the mind and not the soul. If reason dominates and the soul closes in on itself, life can become chaotic. Let it go and practice forgiveness. Even if you have not mastered self-love, you should at least refrain from refueling the inner battle of self-criticism. When you stop battling, energy is freed up for healing and repair.


When the Old Testament warns about creating an idol, it does not mean to put it on a pedestal to worship in that sense. It is cautioning us to not fall into the trap of creating an idealization of something by attributing overwhelming virtues that will invoke balancing forces in our life. Unconditional love is admiration without worship or the need to possess. Love generates positive energy, which carries you on to a corresponding lifeline.

Everything is so simple and yet at the same time so complex. Permit yourself to be who you are without having to constantly justify your actions. Let go of guilt and the need to control. The truth is we are never in control anyway, except over our self. Give others the freedom to be themselves and respect boundaries. Living without worry is largely a matter of changing the mindset. That’s really where everything else begins.

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